The New Nation - Internet Edition

People touch our hearts and influence our lives in a number of ways. Pivotal people are drawn into our sphere to teach and guide us along the journey of life. Most are completely unaware of the impact they have. The relationship may be momentarily and one sided, or it feels as though it has lasted for eternities. One of the most important lessons we learn from others is not about them, but about who we are when we are with them.

A Smile:

Many times it is the "bit players" in the play that set the stage for the action and usher in the "main stars." They may say just the right word, give a bit of encouragement or simply smile to acknowledge your presence. In retrospect, most people can remember a bus driver, teacher, co-worker, neighbor or stranger who aided them physically, emotionally or spiritually when they needed it most. Never underestimate the power of a smile or wave.

Awhile:

Some friends stay with us for a season. We may have a common goal or be in a stage of life together. As interests differ, the friendship and contact may drift away, but fond affection remains for the time and person. Women tend to make friendships based on relationships, school parents, co-workers, or neighbors. Men tend to make friendships based on activities, teammates, or sports.

It is okay to have others to share seasons and interests with. We may have many different friends and acquaintances in varied segments who never meet each other. It is unrealistic to expect one friend to fill all of our needs. When we have learned all we can learn and taught all we can teach in the relationship, it may be time for both parties to move on.

Forever:

If we are lucky, we have touchstones who are there for us always. Their love and acceptance is unconditional. We may not talk for ten years, and then just take up the conversation as if it was yesterday. We have kindred spirits and know that we can be authentic and open with them and won't be judged or found wanting. As blessed as we are to have forever friends, it is more important to be one.

Nurturing friendship is the basic foundation for all relationships. If we treat others as we would like to be treated, we will develop friendships in all three areas. The most important friend you will ever have is yourself. If you like and respect who and what you are, so will other people. You will send out a positive signal to others and they will be drawn to you and enhance your life; for a smile, awhile or forever.